Creating and Executing Systems
We all have systems that we create for ourselves. Think about it, we create daily routines and rituals surrounding what our day to day looks like. What time we generally wake up and go to sleep. What time we generally eat. Our life and these systems tend to revolve around the type of work that we do, our children’s schedules if we have them, our romantic and personal relationships and other entities.
But what about the systems that we put in place that revolve around our personal growth and development? I don’t know about you, but on more occasion than one I have developed systems, made sure I had them all in place and did NOT pull the trigger to execute them. What is up with that?
A lot of it is about getting in our own way. I recently discussed this on a podcast episode called “Getting out of our own way” that you can listen to on my podcast here . I realized that I would create systems but not fully execute them. I had to take a look at what was keeping me from pulling the trigger.
It was revealed to me that for me personally there were some additional insecurities that I needed to work through personally so that I could properly execute that which was on my heart and my mind. Sometimes that takes time. It also takes being honest with yourself and meeting yourself where you are. This is an act of self acceptance and self forgiveness. And most times these are the reasons we find ourselves stuck due to a lack of self acceptance and self forgiveness.
To accept we must forgive and to forgive we must accept. I believe they work in tandem. When we accept ourselves we accept the fully developed parts and the parts that are still a work in progress. I love to work with clients both in therapy and coaching from a strengths based perspective. I feel we can encourage ourselves when we use our strengths to improve our areas of weakness. We utilize the areas that we view in a positive light and use that energy for self-motivation.
I believe that the negative parts of ourselves play an important role in our life, because if we are able to lean into them with empathy and a space of self-forgiveness and self acceptance they become our gifts. It’s similar to our range of emotions. We have these emotions for a reason. It’s okay to feel sad, anger, happiness, fear, excitement and everything else in-between. They all exist because they all serve a purpose!
I commented above about self-acceptance. I think self-forgiveness helps us to embrace the parts of ourselves that we might not be as proud of. Self-forgiveness simply put, is you being able to separate (especially emotionally) who you are from the mistakes that you have made. I like to say “I am imperfectly, perfect” as a positive affirmation and daily acknowledgement. It allows me to remind myself to give me grace for whatever and however each day unfolds. I will not get caught up with things of the past in a way that keeps me emotionally stuck, and I will just be mindful of what’s happening day to day and sometimes moment to moment right in front of me.
So, to bring this all together. Be bold and unapologetic in the ideas that are placed on your heart, create the systems and execute them. Dreams are glimpses of goals that we should bring to fruition. They are our personal and unique gifts. Don’t get in your own way. We are typically our own worst critic. Honestly, mostly everyone is consumed with themselves so you have nothing to worry about. Do you!!
Sending love, light and positive energy! Xoxo-E
